We teach our children by telling them what and how to do things. But we also teach them by our example.
The only problem in a dual adult household is that there are x2 examples.
They may differ.
One adult may walk into the house, take off muddy shoes, clean muddy shoes, put shoes in wardrobe, hang up coat in coat closet, put bag in secure tidy place, unpack shopping to appropriate places. One adult may walk into house, all the way in, with muddy shoes and take them off and put them in the middle of the floor on the rug, then leave coat flung over sofa, dump bag in middle of the coffee table and place shopping heaped on kitchen counters.
One adult may eat 3 x nutritious meals a day. One adult may buy lots of crap food and snack on crap food all day – usually on the sofa with no plate, spreading crumbs and empty packets everywhere.
One adult may have a quick and efficient bath, hanging up towels neatly, wiping any splashed water up. One adult may wallow in the bath for an hour, leave dirty clothes on floor and wet towel crammed in towel rack with no chance of drying.
One adult may place plates, cups, saucepans etc straight into dishwasher after use and wipe kitchen counters if any mess was made. One adult may leave cups, plates all over the house and put saucepans into the sink filled with water to “magically” soak and has never wiped a kitchen counter or breadboard EVER.
One adult may tackle tasks as soon as possible and organise time to achieve things promptly and efficiently. One adult may leave things to the last minute, resulting in a mad scramble panic, and is always late.
One adult may get very frustrated at the other adult and ask nicely once and then start screeching like a banshee. One adult may then grin like a naughty child and think it’s funny.
As a couple this may not seem a huge problem, as people are different, and the point of a relationship is compromise and acceptance of others.
But as a parent it is very painful. Especially when one child calmly responds to any requests…
“Well that’s what Daddy does! So why can’t I?”
ARGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
The Mundanity Of It All 
This is a great topic.
I might just have to cover this in my writing!
Communication is key and if you don’t like what your SO is doing, it should be no problem to say something. They in turn should have issues trying to change their ways to make you happy. Right?!
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You are right, but habits and behaviour in long term relationships are hard to change 😂
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What’s the Answer!
I sit there thinking what have I done choosing this selfish pig! Don’t get me wrong he’s a lovely guy!
But we all have at least 5 languag s of love
We have about 2 each apparently!,
It’s ok if they know what make you feel loved but putting it in practise is another thing..
5 languages of love.
1. People feel loved when they are bought things.
2, like me, I feel loved when people give me there time.
3 .Another one of mine is doing things for me. ( there something about my husband doing house work 😬)
4. Some feel loved with touch and sex (most men I guess!)
5. Someone feels loved when they’re reassured and complemented.
Apparently we are supposed to show our love to our partners buy there language of love.
Find out your partners languages of love, and when he moans he’s not getting IT , tell him yours !
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